Mark Twain said, “The two most important day in your life are the day where you are born and the day you find out why”!
Have you ever wondered about your life’s purpose? Today, I am going to share with you my journey on how I discovered my life’s purpose and hope to inspire you to start yours.
That journey was triggered when I hit rock bottom. That was in October 2017, my job was frustrating, I wasn’t able to maintain the weight I lost earlier that year, BUT the determinant moment was when I flew back from Switzerland, my home country, and my girlfriend wasn’t in the apartment.
At that time, I felt a deep pain inside me. It was so intense that I couldn’t ignore it, it’s when I realised that I have to change something.
That journey started when I met 2 trainers who helped me to get out of my comfort zone.
The first one asked me about (1) what are my values and (2) what are my dreams – questions that I never asked myself before.
The second one, introduced me to a community who first taught me the effect of the food in your body, encouraged me to promote a health program and challenged me to help people to lose weight.
Both
experiences inspired me to think big and with the newly understanding of the
sentence “you are what you eat”. I first thought that revolutionising the food
industry would be my life’s purpose. Therefore, I started to make healthy
protein balls, but after 3 weeks rolling my balls, I was bored. Nevertheless,
it confirmed one thing! My current job was holding me back from finding my true
life’s purpose … I quit shortly after and I start to look within.
That brings me in August 2018, when I found out that an event when I was 6 years old made me feel lonely and rejected. That experience, somehow, locked my heart up and prevented me from feeling worthy of love. It manifested throughout the years as being bullied at school, as being unable to speak up in meeting at work, or simply as being unable to say “I love you” to a girl.
Becoming aware of it and accepting it helped me for the first time of my life to be able to feel loved by someone as well as to give my love someone and be okay if she doesn’t love me back.
By stepping into my biggest fear of being rejected. I understood that I was seeking for love, unconditional love.
But that is not it. On the 30th of December 2018, someone asked me “Do you feel lonely?” to which I bluntly replied “No, I don’t”.
Nevertheless, on the first of January 2019 after my brother and his girlfriend left my apartment, I felt that deep pain again and that when he struck me “I do feel lonely!”
Realising that was a defining moment for me and after reflexion, it explained all my behaviours and decisions throughout the years. From creating protein balls, registering for MasterChef or even grabbing a coffee with my ex. I just wanted to connect with people.
Ladies and gentlemen’s, from rock bottom till loving my life.
From feeling unworthy of love till loving unconditionally.
From feeling lonely till being more connected than ever.
I can now confidently say to Mark Twain that the 1st of January 2019 is the day I found out why I was born. From that day onwards, I committed myself to fight loneliness in the world, to empower people to become their authentic self, coming from a loving heart.
Finding your life’s purpose is not easy, it requires to go within, it requires to discover and face your deepest fears, however once you’ve understood them, you feel deeply alive and you have that sense of freedom so I can really encourage you to take on that journey.